Friday, February 27, 2009

Kids are innocnet..*debatable*

“Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they're going to catch you in next.”

Well who ever cracked the quote probably new someone as extreme, versatile, unsteady, moody, innovative and innocent as my little sister Fiza. She is 8. She is a darling, a sweet heart and a pain in the neck (most of the times). But I can’t resist myself from admitting that she has a world of her own in which she is the Queen, a theory to prove all other existing theories wrong, a Newton in herself (only that we have to find an apple to drop on her head…ouch), a philosopher and the list goes on.

At times I wonder which type of “chemical locha” goes on in her mind that results in some of the greatest advices and immortal quotes to propound.

Here’s a piece of conversation which happened 2-3 weeks ago between her and me..

Fiza : Aapa ek baat puchu.n

Me: Pucho..

Fiza : Pehle bol..tu sharmayegi to nahi

(What..I wanted to laugh loud, wondering at the same time what is she going to ask next, I must confess I went red there itself and hid myself (acting) in pillow.)

Fiza : (irritated) main nahi puchungi..tu to Sharma gayi

Me : (controlling ma laughter) nahi pucho..main nahi sharmaungi

Fiza : (very innocently) tu jisse shaadi karegi, tune wo ladka khoj liya hai kya

( did she knew that I was on the search for the perfect I was amazed because this topic is not normally taken up in my home, my mom and dad hardly searching for a guy..*sigh*)

Me : (amazed, confused, blushing and smiling) Nahi, tum batao kaisa ladka hona chahiye

(Well I must admit, I regret asking this to her, I wanted her to stop this debate, for reason unknown, but what happened was the total reverse to it)

Fiza: Tuna jisse shaadi karna ..wo na gora hona chahiye

(:P..fairness-creams-for-men-advertisement syndrome)

Me : par teri aapa (that is me ) to sanwali hai

Fiza : haan, par ek ko to gora hona chahiye

(ohhhhhhhh kkkkkkkk…so she was aware of the genes concept and dint wanted her nephews and niece to be of my color…what else is this girl holding to blast me with..)

Me: aur …bas gora hoga to kar lun shadi

Fiza : nahi…sirf gora hone se kaam nahi chalega na aapa…wo lamba bhi hona chahiye…shailendra bhaiyya se bhi lamba

(common…I am not that tall..just average and shailendra is already 6.2 or 6.3 …well taller.. really taller than me..I already look like a kid before him..But more surprising was..this girl too has a fascination for tall a teenager reminder : she is just

Me : (ofcourse now damn curious) aur?

Fiza : aur na uske paas bahut paisa hona chahiye

( :D :D :D girl..Do u think your sister is a princess that she is going to get a Prince??..Remarkable sense of financial security this the CA effect??)

Me: Par zyaada paisa hoga to wo uske paas mujhse pyaar karne ka time nahi hoga

(I was sure she would not be able to answer this..I mean..whatever it is ..she is still a child..she doesn’t know the complexity of adults’ world..or is it debatable??)

Fiza : are zyaada paisa hoga to wo boss ki nahi sunega wo kabhi bhi ghar aa jayega..samjhi

(*mouth wide open* this gal has made me speechless)

Aur na uska ghar bahut bada hona chahiye aur chamakna chahiye

(:P tell me kiddo..did you just saw any of Barbie or Anesthesia or so a Disney movie?? This don’t happen in real..prince..palace..marble..ya she meant marbles probably when she said “ghar chamakna chahiye” )

Me : (now in a lighter mood) par ghar chamkega to teri aapa fisal jaayegi

Fiza : nahi na wo kaanch wale jute hote haina..usse nahi fisalte..maine dekha hai TV pe..

(Sweetheart..thats TV..Ekta and Disney has corrupted this little girl’s mind *tch tch*)

Me : (exhausted with this little girl’s checklist) aur bas na?

Fiza : nahi uske ghar me bahut bahut saare log hone chahiye..aur who na jeans aur t-shirt pahanna chahiye…aur uski daadhi nahi honi chahiye..

( OK I love families..but bahut bahut saare log..This is too much..I have always lived in a nuclear will I adjust?? Allah!! And t-shirts and jeans and beard..SRK fan no doubt:D :P…
P.S. I dont mind him wearing anything as far as he is neat and carries himself well)

She was chuckling after that…and even if she was speaking something I don’t think so I heard lot of it..I mean I was confused by that time, thinking on her checklist for the perfect guy. So many criteria’s, if I go up with that, I will end up marrying 5-6 guys (I bet all qualities are impossible to be found in a single guy, and even if so a guy exist, why will he marry me??). And if I decide to introduce her to a guy of my liking, will she ever accept him??

I am still wondering from where did she get this “gyan” of the perfect guy?? Who is to be blamed?? Friends, T.V., Movies, School, Parents and us?? Who?? Does she realize the depth of the topic she is speaking on??

On a serious note, marriage for me is more a relationship and ease shared by two people, it has to be build on the principle of mutual trust and belief, it’s like a bond you share with your blood related close family members, only that this time you are under the paak nikah (and related to each other by God’s will).

I don’t want my guy to be rich, fair, tall , with a big house with marble flooring, but certainly I want him to love me, to grant me my space and adore me for the person I am. Typical beauty contest answer, I know. But I bet this is what in long run will benefit you. You can’t have a relationship build on a concept as weak, mortal and ageing as beauty, money or fame. What will matter will of course be the “love”. And that what tops my checklist first, then follows our chemistry, mutual respect, financial independency and blah blah.

On the other hand if I get a mix of both the checklist ( Fiza’s and mine ) I just don’t mind. Anyone ??? :P :D :D

Thursday, February 26, 2009

My Dear Friend

by Brandon Chase Sims

Dear friend I can’t explain to you
How much you mean to me
If it weren’t for you I can’t imagine
Where I’d even be

You’ve made me laugh and smile
More than I can bear
You’ve helped me through the hardest times
When I was in despair

You kept me up when I was down
And I was feeling blue
You helped me turn my life around
And become somebody new

Thank you friend for everything
I’m glad you really cared
Thanks for never leaving me
Thanks for being there

*This is dedicated to two of my loveliest friend, one miles and miles away and the other relatively closer, who have made my world wonderful by their care, advice and love. :)

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Studies do help

There always has to be a very serious reason for my being absent from internet. Yesterday too, had one. Guess what?? I was actually up the whole night yesterday (ah well up to 3 and den got up at 6 again) studying Law, to be precise Ethics and I loved the following portion (the only portion I remember I guess)...

Unit: Workplace Ethics
Topic: Harassment at workplace

# Harassment could take many forms – using abusive language, insulting before others, constantly finding faults with work of employees, pressurizing for extra work and extra working hours, giving some urgent work in the evening just before leaving office, sexual harassment etc.

:D :D u got (rather saw) ma point. Books are, at times, your best friends. They understand you better. :P

Monday, February 23, 2009

Answering my friends :)

My mom tells I am unpredictable and its true most of the time. Once a course mate (shouldn’t say ma course mate given she is a full fledged lawyer and is doing CA when I am considered a kid before them) said that I have numerous of thoughts and don’t have proper brain mechanism to canalize them. I term it as being versatile (not confused, as many perceive it), I may be talking on something as unimportant as going to Spencer and may end up on illiteracy and poverty in India. This doesn’t mean I don’t have proper knowledge or interest in specific things; it’s just that hundreds of things fascinate me at the same point of time and I speak out instantly what I feel. I feel this is the time, it’s now or never…

So, why all of a sudden I am writing things, sounding against me? Two very simple reasons for this. First to answer one of my very good friend (hope he is reading this) and others who are confused by the difference between my first and second post in the blog….and second to prove that knowledge can be on issues totally different from each others...and interest may have wide range of flexibility…

So for the first question, as I explained in the very first post of mine that world is strange, I shall stick to the fact that it is and that’s what fascinates me. It fascinate me equally how people with responsibilities can turn their faces from their job as it fascinates me that how God always is kind to me even when at times I don’t deserve it. My point is I made this blog so that I can list down my fascination, my thoughts, my arguments relating to anything and everything. So it’s very normal if you find my posts regarding Chennai riots and my love for colored scarves on the same page. It’s my Paradise and I love the way it is.

Now clarification regarding the second reason. All my life I had a strange love for reading. Strange may be a small word. It was a killing habit. Killing my time, interrupting my studies, limiting my hangouts, everything had to stop if I had something to read. And the "something" was unfortunately never my text book or anything related to it. I used to read newspaper, line by line, magazine, ads by ads, signboards, even the "Inauguration signs" at the entrance of labs, museum etc. So much was I into it that my parents stopped purchasing newspaper one month before my boards.

But today I hardly regret it. If it was not for this habit of mine, I wouldn’t have developed interest in such a wide range of topics. If I am talking to you normally, I can bet you can never ever guess that I will have enough patience to sit down and read something leave writing apart or that I know about Gothic culture and interested in social service alike. This has been a surprise for many and many have actually thought I fake. I would like to be very clear that I hardly give it a damn if you think that my knowledge isn’t original. As a lover of knowledge, I respect every kind of knowledge whether abridged, researched or discovered. Knowledge is information and information can be acquired by many means. I loved what one of my friends wrote as his status message “Ingenuity doesn’t depend upon recognition”. :)

So I think now people will have no problem in digesting my second post of this blog and even I am feeling light ;). Till the next post..

Allah Hafiz

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Who will advocate for the Advocates?

Being a student of Chartered Accountancy, the phrase that “Who will guard the Guards" ( Latin : Quis custodiet ipsos cutodes) is no new for me. It has often been a topic of discussion in ICAI ever since the Chartered Accountants profession started and has been one of the recent favorite pastime, thanks to the Satyam Saga.

Sadly, as Latin quotes always somehow fit every situation, this one does too; only this time I just twisted it a bit to sound appropriate to the topic of the day “Who will advocate for the Advocates?”. You got me right this one is a tribute to the heroic act of the Advocates in Chennai and the patience and judgment showed by Police on mauka- e - waardaat (*sarcasm*).

We have a country bestowing people with all rights, which if practiced can shift India to the first rank of Human Development index. Only one thing, shoot down the politicians, fill jails with the police, and now ban the advocates. I mean weren’t we enough tortured and used for the sake of politicians that we now have to live under the fear of Advocates burning the palace of Justice???

Dekh tere sansaar ki haalaat kya ho gayi bhagwaan
Kitna badal gaya insaan

These advocates downing the black coat, promising justice to the innocents, what they think? Do they think that just because they are the one who advocate for others, they have the right to throw rotten eggs inside the court room, set ablaze a Police station, disrupt the civic life, break the law, and be responsible for the shoot at sight order in the city??

And all these because they think it’s all right to support the organization which is accused of assassination of an Indian Prime Minister, which covers up the front page of TOI for killing innocents , which is being labeled as a terrorist organization and which is a disgrace to humanity? Ya, I am talking about LTTE. These moving memory cards of whole of the Indian Constitution, can’t they see that what they are doing is against IPC? Against country? Against Country people?

Not forgetting our wonderful Police, who frustrated and confused at Advocates’ reaction at the court, hit back by smashing vehicles parked inside the complex and threw teargas shells which caused even more of chaos and wrapped up one of the Judge who is now admitted in hospital. I agree that they were doing the duty but no sympathy for them here too, as they refused to get the lawyer arrested who was held responsible for starting all this, instead got all of them behind the bars.

After all this drama, who is suffering? It’s us, the common man, these lawyers and the police and the media ( ya media is responsible too, given that they never forget to divert our concentration from main issue to the more “sensationalized” one) they all will wash their hands at the end of the day. Police will say it had no other way than giving shoot at sight order (Has it really worked ??), media will say they were reporting the “truth” and come’ on you don’t throw 400 lawyers in jail just like that (provided u have those many jails).

Amidst all this we tend to forget that it’s the LTTE that’s gaining in the whole of the business. Whole of the security is directed against lawyers then who will secure us from foreign terrorist organization. Think a bit, stress your brain nerves, all 400 lawyers moving against law..There is something’s just not common..not every day business. And now we will get busy in fighting “among” ourselves and forget that we have to fight “for” ourselves. This has been the case always. Let’s see if it makes some difference this time.

But yes my innocent mind is still wondering, if all the lawyers are under arrest then “who is going to advocate the Advocates”? ;) And above all who will judge the case :O??

Any answers??

Saturday, February 21, 2009

My Innocent Paradise

My innocent paradise….

Why paradise?? Because it’s away from the world, a dream, a heaven of my thoughts, an ideal place I want to be…

Why innocent?? Because it’s just me..Just Gul…just Gulshan.. just Heena…just so me…it’s what I think on the first hand…all pure ..Untouched from any hypocrisy of world, paak from all pretensions ..

It may be right may be wrong …but it’s true and innocent because this is what I perceive the world from my heart’ eyes…you see brain does really little, when I see world from my heart’s eyes…

Its true with all of us…we all have a innocent paradise…our thoughts..Our heaven …where the child…the innocent child in us wants to dwell…WELCOME to mine….

Strange is the world…Strange is God and Strange are His ways..Strange are the people and so strange are their works…So if you are looking in this post to know the reason why I have created this blog…The reason is to find my place in so known yet strange world…

You may find all kind of crap, all kind of serious issues (provided they look serious to me given my “chalta hai “ attitude), my first hand view on it, how I would have asked God to change it (See the pic…I always look up and ask God..minus the winter )…and how better it could be…How it could be paradise and how it isn’t…

I apologies in advance if it may hurt some people..But give it a second thought..wouldn’t the world be better if we all have been true to all of us….True to ourselves at least…So there goes the first rule of my blog…comment..Post..Request…do whatever you want to…Just be true..Be yourselves…and So will I be…to all of you..To my friends..To world..To ALLAH…

Thanks. :)